On the challenge, joys, and ambivalence of tandem breastfeeding.
Most times when you are having a hard time and you share your experience you get a supportive response. In my experience people are generally encouraging when I’m going through difficult times.
It’ll be okay. Keep trying. It will be worth it in the long run. You’ll get through this. One day at a time.
With tandem nursing or extended breastfeeding the response is different.
The very supportive people say, I don’t know how you do it, I couldn’t.
Everyone else says, Why don’t you quit? Cut her off. She’s had enough. If she’s old enough to ask, she’s too old to be nursing. If she’s potty trained she shouldn’t be nursing anymore. She doesn’t need it anymore. She needs real food.
I can’t think of any other challenge I’ve had in my life where, when I seek out support or need to vent about how difficult it is, people suggest that I quit.