Peggy O’Mara’s description of (uncomfortably) moving from punishment to cooperation, with succinct explanations on why gentle parenting is not out-of-control parenting, and ideas for what to do to parent gently.
Being humble, however, does not mean that we give up our authority. A parent’s authority is based not on being right all the time but on being the one in charge. You do not have to give up your authority as a parent or be permissive to parent in a more cooperative way. However, you do have to learn a new language, and it takes time. The more you practice cooperation, the more skilled at it you become.