A perfect primer and FAQ on baby-led solids.
A perfect primer and FAQ on baby-led solids.
The truth is out — our babies are sleep training us!
My Mummy has had me for almost 7 months. The first few months were great. I cried, she picked me up and fed me, anytime, day or night. Then something happened.
Over the last few weeks, she has been trying to STTN (sleep through the night). At first, I thought it was just a phase, but it is only getting worse. I’ve talked to other babies, and it seems like its pretty common after Mummies have had us for around 6 months.
Here’s the thing: these Mummies don’t really need to sleep. Its just a habit. Many of them have had some 30 years to sleep and they just don’t need it anymore. So I am implementing a plan.
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I get a lot of people saying they know how to breastfeed “safely” in a moving car. I sort of doubt most of them are.
If mom weighs 120 pounds, and is in a crash with 20 G’s, her entire body will weigh 120 pounds x 20G’s = 2400 pounds. You can imagine that her chest will weigh at least 1,000 of these pounds – and if she is leaning over the baby to nurse, her chest will slam down on the baby’s body in a sudden stop or crash – as both the mom and baby will be moving in the same direction due to the physics of the crash. You wouldn’t drop a 1,000 pound cinder block on a baby – so too you shouldn’t lean over the child to nurse them – as your body can crush the child.
I could see, given my very, very large boobs, that there might be a way for a very select number of people to stay firmly seated but streeetch a nipple over for latch-on. I still suspect that number’s far fewer than the people who think they’re being safe and are not. For my part (and despite the aforementioned boobage), it’s not worth the risk. If your baby must nurse, pull over.
I’m taking this one right from Authentic Parenting’s Sunday Surf, because it’s worth repeating!
When a baby has a pacifier in their mouth, it is difficult for them to be able to copy the actions of the adults or children they are trying to mimic, therefore making it harder for them to learn to express their own emotions.
The authors discovered that boys aged 6 and 7 who used pacifiers regularly as babies or young children were not as likely to copy emotional expression they saw in others in a video they were asked to watch.
I’m not anti-pacifier as once I was — Alrik uses one in the car (that’s where we started) and when Sam’s trying to get him to sleep. (Night pacifier use was fine, in the terms of this study.) I’ve also been known to grab a handy one when I’m simply nursed-out and need some space but Alrik still wants to suck. This sort of study reinforces my conviction not to rely on a pacifier overly much, though, because I do notice he can’t interact with us as thoroughly when he has it in his mouth.
I wonder if there’s any connection between parents’ intent and pacifier use in boys. Do parents want boys not to show as much emotion?
This is a similar post about not feeling ecstatic about our babies, particularly if they like to scream all the time, as our firstborn did. I often tell people we loved Mikko from birth, but we didn’t fully like him until about 18 months. I say that not to shame him or make him seem inadequate, but just to be honest and reassuring (for those who feel the same), and to say along with MODG here: It gets better.
They get older; they get personalities; they become endearing and likable and they stop screaming so dang much. It gets better. It has gotten better.
I almost can’t remember the me I was who was so uncertain it would get better, since I love parenting so much now (most of the time, ha ha). But I will still honestly talk about these changes so that other parents of challenging babies know: You are not alone.
Trigger warning for post-birth trauma: Don’t read if you’re pregnant and/or trying to maintain a positive outlook on birth and the postpartum period.
I really appreciate Laura’s honesty in sharing how she didn’t bond immediately with her son after her difficult birth experience. I don’t think it even takes a difficult birth for that to happen; sometimes love grows gradually rather than shining all at once.
Sometimes parents are afraid to talk about not feeling the “right” way about their kids, but it’s so important to know you’re not alone when you have these doubts, depressions, fears, and so on.