Actual nonsenical dietary advice to women who dare to be fat while pregnant.
And even when women comply with these ridiculous restrictions, their care providers often don’t believe them. In the care providers’ eyes, if you are “obese,” then OBVIOUSLY you are overeating, mainlining ice cream and bread, and consume a TON of sugar. And if you don’t admit to it, well, then obviously you are lying.
As a plus-size woman who’s had two mostly intervention-free, healthy births, I wish that every birthing woman, no matter her size, could find a provider who’s supportive and reasonable. These are some helpful ways for birth professionals to provide optimal outcomes in women of size and could give women looking for a professional tips on what language and support to look for.
After years of having every bite nit-picked, pregnancy food diaries can be very triggering for women with long histories of dieting or eating disorders. In addition, many providers don’t believe women of size no matter what they say. As one mom shared, “[My midwife] refused to believe what I recorded. She flat-out accused me of lying, telling me that I ‘must be living on ice cream and donuts.’” This can be very disillusioning.
Yes. Sadly, this is true, and I experienced it last pregnancy, to the point that I was barely eating anything throughout my third trimester out of stress and guilt.
Further reading: Part 1 is on making childbirth education classes size-friendly.
Wraps and carriers that work for more sizes.