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A reminder of the point of gentle parenting: connection.
A reminder of the point of gentle parenting: connection.
Amazing list of tips that are respectful to your children and calming for both of you.
Love this wisdom from Simcha Fisher:
Good parents are the ones who try as hard as they can to do what seems right to them, but still allow themselves to say, “This just isn’t working. Let’s try something else.”Good parents are the ones who say, “Wow, this system, plan, or attitude was effective with me, my siblings, and my other six children, and (as far as I can tell from the outside) every other kid in our church, school, and area shopping mall; but for whatever reason, it’s not working with this particular kid. Let’s try something else.”
Beautiful.
There is a common belief that it takes two to engage in a conflict. One on Side A and one on Side B. But that’s not true. It only takes one. One to be insisting on their way. One to be holding the other to certain expectations. One to not listen. One to be inflexible. One to claim the power. One to hold too tightly. One who won’t let it go.
Don’t be that one.
Be the adult.
Be the one who understands. The one who creates space for possibility. The one who says, “let’s see.” The one who puts tender loving care before total leveraged control. The one who gets down on their level. The one who remembers what it’s like to be little. The one who gives hope and can be counted on. The one who paves the way to trust.
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An answer to “why bother?”
I was introduced to another way; an alternative view of my children. It encourages me to listen to my kids and learn about what they like and what makes them comfortable. It reminds me to see life through their eyes, just as I try to do with my husband and sisters and friends.
Patience vs Presence – Cultivating Patience Through Presence | Presence Parenting
You can link up your own posts on Patience at the Natural Parents Network Blog Hop for the next week: http://presenceparenting.com/patience-npn/ (And read a bunch of great posts already linked!)
Lovely reminder to say “Yes!” (inspired in part by an article I wrote on the topic).
I think there’s an important distinction between saying yes and being over-indulgent. Part of the distinction for me, is saying yes to intangible needs and wants, rather than just material requests. I guess it boils down to saying yes to taking the time for meaningful engagement, and I don’t believe that’s ever over-indulgent. I hope that when our kids are adults they’ll remember the underdogs on the playground and the bedtime stories, not just which Lego kits we bought.
What are some of your recent Yes moments?
We are going to create a home where everyone pulls their weight, but does so out of their desire to cooperate and participate. We will do it with peaceful parenting strategies - not power-over strategies, punishments, or rewards.
My kids will join me in this mission and their participation will be joyful.
Ambitious? Heck yeah. But certainly worth my best shot.
Because I believe that with some creativity and connection kids and adults can come together, find a common goal, and work joyfully towards it.
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I am confident that we can banish entitlement and create participation without forcing a thing.
I am so interested in following along on this journey! We have similar dynamics at work here — and add in two parents who are hopeless themselves at keeping the place clean (sigh). So we all have a lot to learn about pitching in cooperatively.
