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A reminder of the point of gentle parenting: connection.
A reminder of the point of gentle parenting: connection.
Amazing list of tips that are respectful to your children and calming for both of you.
Love this wisdom from Simcha Fisher:
Good parents are the ones who try as hard as they can to do what seems right to them, but still allow themselves to say, “This just isn’t working. Let’s try something else.”Good parents are the ones who say, “Wow, this system, plan, or attitude was effective with me, my siblings, and my other six children, and (as far as I can tell from the outside) every other kid in our church, school, and area shopping mall; but for whatever reason, it’s not working with this particular kid. Let’s try something else.”
Beautiful.
There is a common belief that it takes two to engage in a conflict. One on Side A and one on Side B. But that’s not true. It only takes one. One to be insisting on their way. One to be holding the other to certain expectations. One to not listen. One to be inflexible. One to claim the power. One to hold too tightly. One who won’t let it go.
Don’t be that one.
Be the adult.
Be the one who understands. The one who creates space for possibility. The one who says, “let’s see.” The one who puts tender loving care before total leveraged control. The one who gets down on their level. The one who remembers what it’s like to be little. The one who gives hope and can be counted on. The one who paves the way to trust.
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An answer to “why bother?”
Patience vs Presence – Cultivating Patience Through Presence | Presence Parenting
You can link up your own posts on Patience at the Natural Parents Network Blog Hop for the next week: http://presenceparenting.com/patience-npn/ (And read a bunch of great posts already linked!)
Love this post and the accompanying Hathor comic. Why not ask “Why not”? Why not say “yes” more?
I catch some flak from my family for trying to parent in this way: being responsive rather than giving a kneejerk no to everything — you know, the be-in-control-at-all-times method of parenting. But it’s worth the price of a little outside misunderstanding to know my children know we’ll really listen to them.
